Tuesday, December 29, 2009

Domestic Abuse

I got socked in the eye by a door a few nights ago. It was a hotel door, with the ball latches that allow you to open the door and peak outside without letting someone in.

When I heard my friend knocking outside at 1 AM, I opened the door for him with my eye level to the fist-like catch. My friend decided he needed to get into the room more quickly than I could pull it open, so he pushed forward. As we both had some drinks, this led to the predictable ending of the door punching me in the face.

I wasn't so happy at the time of the event, but it seemed rather hilarious in the morning. My friend said he was sorry and that it would never happen again (They always say that don't they). I really hope someone asks how I got this shiner so I can say, "No. I am telling the truth; I just ran into a door."

Monday, December 21, 2009

Three months fly by

For those who are still following this blog only to see that nothing is updated, I apologize. I haven't posted an entry in quite some time, but it hasn't been for the lack of good material. In fact the past three months have been filled with great stories, but none of the time to sit down and write them. My lack of a working camera has also made it difficult to record the events pictorially.

Rather than trying to haphazardly tell the stories and events, I am just going to list the events and allow whoever is reading this to piece the details together.

Watched some friends and their organization get blacklisted from Cambodia, with the requirement that they leave within 24 hours.
Thought I had saved someone's life, but found out two months later that I didn't.
Dated a co-worker, became the center of the rumor mill, and eventually decided that the whole thing was a big mistake.
Attended at least 10 good-bye parties.
Joined a bible study, which ended up being rather discouraging for the people who were hoping to open my eyes to the splendor of their Christ; the bible study was subsequently dissolved.
Was sent on a business trip to Hong Kong with a notice of two days. Business trip consisted of drinking gin, trying to socialize, and picking up an award for something I am casually involved with.
Traveled to a conflict zone, met both sides of the conflict, and tried to speak with my limited vocabulary of both languages.
Watched a land-mine being removed from a road I traveled down fairly regularly and assumed was perfectly safe.
Watched a boy who had no way to communicate for four years, suddenly find the right people and tools to teach him how.
Was instrumental in helping to build a three-classroom school for a hundred children that had been studying in an unstable shack. Oddly enough, I did not feel completely satisfied on the completion of the school.
Selected 25 new students for hospitality education, with personal stories that ranged from murderous fathers to orphaned children who sleep outside.
Avoided dengue fever, unlike five of my co-workers.
Donated blood, with minor complications that resulted in a gigantic bruise across my arm.
Went to an indoor rock climbing wall on a regular basis, but then not at all.
Hosted about 15-20 random strangers to sleep in my guestroom. The most interesting of which was either the triathlon athlete who was riding his bicycle around the world or the Vietnamese-American who lived in Mongolia.
Ate tofu seasoned with concrete.
Swept water out of my house twice, once after an entire day of heavy rains, then again three days later when the river spilled over and flooded large portions of the city.
Watched the roads turn from bad to terrible and then, with a quick declaration from the Prime Mister, restored with the kind of speed that only an authoritarian ruler can make possible.
Lived perfectly content without a TV for three months, but finally broke down and bought one. Haven't noticed much of a difference.
Visited the outstanding Islamic Art Museum in Kuala Lumpur and came to the conclusion that Islamic societies get very little recognition for their advances to general world development.
Stopped the potential use of child labor at my workplace.
Looked at a piece of land being sold by someone who seemed to be running a brothel, and decided that that was enough reason not to buy the land.
Paid a bribe to a Cambodian solider to camp at a 14th century temple. Spent the later evening watching the stars and eating chips-ahoy cookies with the person that we paid-off.
Figured out a way to make sure that my roommate could pay for university without getting a loan that might ruin him.
Learned how to drive a motorcycle. Use of the breaks is still a problem sometimes.
Swam in an ancient reservoir.
Was complemented on my performance as Master of Ceremony at the hotel's graduation ceremony.
Underwent some difficult staff issues and meetings that ultimately led to the resignation of one of my staff, who has five years of experience with the hotel.
Bicycled around Angkor Wat in nearly complete darkness.
Jumped into a saltwater pool with all of my clothes on, and pulled a World Bank consultant into the pool with me.
Watched Kung-Fu Panda a dozen times with co-workers, who never tired of the jokes.
Became more inebriated than necessary in a night that began with a third of a bottle of whiskey, followed by beer, then another bottle of whiskey, and finishing with shots of sambuca and sips from a bucket of redbull plus unknown alcohol. Amazingly, I still made it to work at midday on Sunday, sober, for the extra work I had scheduled.
Denied a young, Cambodian girl her graduation diploma in a conversation that was filled by a large amount of tears.
Terrorized some small cats (no physical harm) in the hope that they would stop begging for food at our staff canteen.
Watched an elderly woman have her decayed, red-stained teeth pulled.
Organized a day trip for a group of 60 hotel consultants.
Something else amazing that I cannot write in any open forum.

Well, that is it. I hope that I will have more time to write stories from now on, but something tells me that that may not be true.

Sunday, September 6, 2009

Student loaning

My roommate is having troubles paying for his university education, which is all-around worrisome. He became my roommate when he was first having troubles paying bills. Prior to living with me, free of rent but including utilities, he was living at the pagoda.

He moved to the main town of Siem Reap from his village about 25 kilometers away. His parents are elderly farmers, and he has two younger siblings who are currently in high school. When he came to Siem Reap he was ambitious to find education. He received some training at the pagoda, which offered him a place to sleep. His English improved greatly and he was able to graduate from high school.

He then was selected to study at my workplace, which trains young, disadvantaged students in Hospitality. He trained in the restaurant and was near the top of the class. As he was nearing the time for graduation, our storekeeper at the hotel left his position somewhat suddenly. My roommate was offered the open position, which he took.

At that time, he was 22 and he needed to leave the pagoda, because he was already too old to be staying there without being a monk. So, then he moved in with me, and things have been fine as far as I knew.

We aren't the closest of roommates. We both spend a large amount of our time at work, and after he finishes his job, he goes to university. On his day off, he takes his motorbike home to help his parents with chores and on their farm. Sometimes we would grab a beer together, but lately he does not go out at all.

His expenses include half of the utilities (about $10), his university education, and his motorbike. He eats his meals at the hotel and I provide him a room. I was therefore a bit surprised when he told me that he would be unable to pay his half of the utilities this month. (He said he would pay double next month.)

I don't really care about the utilities. I have a roommate because I don't want to live alone. I want him to pay half of the utilities so that he has some vested interest in the well-being of the house. I was surprised because his monthly expenses are so low. He told me he didn't have any money because he needs to pay back the salary advance he took from the hotel and he also needed to pay for his siblings’ education.

This is worrisome, but I told him that we would sit down and discuss how he was going to manage his expenses so that he doesn't get burdened with debt. If it comes to it, we will talk about whether he needs a student loan. I haven't had that awkward conversation yet, but thinking about the situation, I can't help but wonder why there aren't better systems to provide student loans.

Why are there no merit-based student loans - ones based on your grades, university and major instead of solely on your current ability (or your parents’ ability) to repay? In the US, bank-provided student loans are pretty much just unsecured loan, often cosigned with a parent. Many students in the US rely on credit cards to pay for expenses, which is a terrible idea.

In spite of this, education is perhaps the best investment a person can make. The rates of return are higher than nearly any other investment (especially given the current housing market). It seems then, that loans should be given to students who have a high probability of success out of university, such as engineer and science majors.

Perhaps someone can provide some insight on this issue. I would certainly appreciate it.

Tuesday, August 11, 2009

Left-handed, not backwards-handed

I took five of my culinary students to a Korean bakery this afternoon for an interview. I don't think any of them have had much experience with interviews, outside of the one I gave them, in their village backgrounds. Interviews by their very nature are intimidating and unenjoyable. The added stress of undergoing an interview in another language must be even more painful.

However, the real comedy of the unfolding situation is that the person doing the hiring is the chef, not the owners. While the owners are cordial and speak fairly fluent English and exude the warmth that young Asian couple often do, the chef is a gruff old man with less English knowledge than my students. When he sits down in his chair to join the interview, his legs are set akimbo and his feet meet on the floor creating diamond of open air that showcases his crotch. His torso is pushed back a bit, but his face is aligned vertically with crotch. With his hands gripping the armrests, it looks as if he is ready to pounce and rip the jugular of every applicant at the table.

The young couple tries to temper his questions. I know from sound that they are speaking Korean, but in my mind it sounds like they are translating a Klingon war decree through a Federation mediator. Eventually, we finish with the formalities, and the nice young couple admits that they have no idea who to choose. This seems reasonable because the students all come from somewhat similar disadvantaged backgrounds. So I make the casual suggestion that the chef tests them in the kitchen.

That was overall a bad idea. It's not that the idea didn't work, but that it was so comically wrong. The chef had one test, and as far as I could tell it had nothing to do with cooking. The chef pulled out an egg from thin air (in retrospect he probably got it from under the table). He displays the egg in his left hand, with his arm positioned in a 90 degree angle. He is holding the egg like it is an item of power. Suddenly, he produces more eggs and non-verbally instructs the interviewees to do as he is doing.

Just before he passes the eggs out, he asks for a question to be translated. "Is anyone left-handed?" After some confusion, one of my students raises his hand sheepishly. The chef looks away toward the ground, a bit disgusted, and mutters something. The kind young Korean woman apologizes to my student and says that the chef will not hire left-handed cooks. My student is completely confused and I am just taken aback.

Immediately, the eggs get distributed to the students and they are asked to perform the test. The test involves holding an egg, in your left hand, with your forearm prostrate, and spinning the egg with your thumb and fingers. I have never seen this test before and only stare in amazement. After 45 seconds, the chef signals them to stop.

He thinks, with his index finger and thumb rubbing his chin. Then he speaks with the nice young couple and selects the two students that showed the most promise. They turn to a third student and apologize to him. They say that he demonstrated a great deal of promise, but that his technique needs more refinement. They encourage everyone to apply again soon, as they would be hiring more individuals.

The students who were not selected walk out a bit dejected. I couldn't blame them. The only thing that was going through my mind was WTF! A 45-second egg spinning test and eliminating my left-handed student, what kind of crazy Korean exam is that! Why not ask them to name a recipe or bake a cake? Why not give them a test that has something to do with cooking!?

I keep my cool though and try to raise the spirits of my students. I offer to buy them ice cream, which they refuse. I tell them that interviewing is tough and that you just have to put yourself out there if you want something. However, what I want to say is, “that was a ridiculous interview and you will never have to go through that again.”

But all's well that ends well. Two of my students got jobs and the rest of them will have incentive to brush up on their egg twirling skills. Except that left-handed kid, he's just screwed no matter which way you look at it.

Friday, August 7, 2009

Untitled

I think I realized last night just how personally I take my work. What sparked it off was a two-minute conversation with someone I regard highly.

I was at an art gallery opening, enjoying the free food and drinks provided. Many of my friends from various NGOs were around. I ran into a casual friend who happens to have started a very successful NGO called Pepy Ride. (If you want to support their work, vote for them on the geotouism changemakers website here: http://geotourism.changemakers.com/en-us/node/16599/vote )

Anyway, we only spoke for about two minutes and she retold a friend of a friend story about how our programs were neither sustainable or effective. This was in regard to a time before I arrived, when the person running the program did not do a very good job. Nonetheless, I felt like it was a slight against me and my work thus far. It probably didn't help that the complaint mentioned two years ago is still somewhat valid today.

I could stop thinking about it all night and the following morning I wrote off a two-page response to explain the programs and defend my work. In retrospect, it was probably unnecessary. In fact, it made me feel a bit silly that I would get so upset and defensive.

My worry is that it points to a larger trouble which is that I am too attached to my programs. I have put a lot of time and energy into them, but at the end of the day I still have to realize that they are part of something bigger and separate from me. Also, I should know that the programs are not me, and that I have a life outside of work.

I know that whenever the time comes to step away from this job, the task will be quite difficult. For that reason, I need to be more conscious of the goals I am trying to achieve and the ensure that the final result will continue to live on in the next person who takes on this position.

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In contrary news, I will be taking over our bakery to try and turn our current losses into profits. Ideally, this bakery is supposed to make money for our school, not take it away.

Cons: I know little about business, I don't enjoy bossing people around
Pros: the learning experience, the smell of fresh bread

Tuesday, July 14, 2009

American Post

I made a point of not making any posts while I was in US. I figured that I spend my time on other things than being on the computer or watching TV. Overall, I think I did well on that commitment to myself. I didn't accomplish everything that I wanted to while I was in the States, but I think I hit the major goals, which were spending time with friends and family.

It was wonderful to be back, but also a bit strange, knowing that it would be a relatively short time before I was back in Cambodia. To start, it was a bit difficult to comprehend that I was even back – not physically, but as a state of mind. Periodically, I would compare things around me to things in Cambodia. Reflecting on the fact that the roads were so much nicer, that the buildings were so tall, that not all the people are Asian, you know, the simple things.

However, slowly, I started to notice the things that I love about the US: the bustle of a city, the sounds of street musicians, the taste of American microbrews (as opposed to the omnipresent lager of SE Asia), the way the Pacific Northwest is surrounded by astounding nature. Perhaps the greatest thing about the US, as I experienced it, is that it is so easy. It is easy to communicate, easy to get around, easy to buy things. However, the thing that I appreciate the most is that the problems are easy.

In Cambodia, small problems are endemic and point to larger problems. A cough that turns into a fever and then into malaria. A barely-funded classroom packed with children that points to a mismanaged school that points to pervasive government graft. That is not to diminish the problems of the US, but just to say that they are more manageable. The most complicated problem that affected me was downtown Seattle traffic. I even went on a police-ride-along with my best friend where we encountered an abusive boyfriend and two mentally impaired individuals who were. Although these sights were upsetting and point toward significant problems in US society, they still seemed small and conquerable.

That said, I don't envy anyone who is severely struggling as a result of this recession. However, I have come to realize that, for now, I do not need the easiness of the US. In spite of all the United States' comforts and fun, I am happy to be living, and sometimes floundering, internationally. Plus, I am comforted by the knowledge that wonderful family and friends and the comforts of the US will be waiting for me whenever I get back. Thank you.

Friday, May 15, 2009

Trips

It is hard to believe that I will be back in the United States in less than two week. This time I will be in town for over a month, so I should have ample time to see just about everyone I want to see. My cell phone should be working so you can feel free to reach me there or at my e-mail address.

For the moment, I am preparing for a weekend trip to Vietnam. I am a bit nervous about going. As a citizen of the United States, I can't help but feel a bit guilty for the collective responsibility of our nation's actions. I imagine that if I were a middle-aged Vietnamese person (either from the North or South), I would be a bit pissed off about American backpackers lounging around my cities and beaches.

Although, I will be meeting up with a Vietnamese-American friend, so I hope that will smooth everything over. Also, I am super excited about eating Vietnamese cuisine.